June 3, 2008

The woman in your life

This piece is from the web, forwarded to me. I know many, many guys who must read this.. who have different yardsticks of expectations from themselves and their wives.

Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry with these facts as well.

Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system;

That gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name,

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to;

and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;

Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

But not many guys understand this......

Please appreciate her!

One simple piece of advice to every guy. If you expect your wife to do all what the above piece talks about, then find someone who would be happy doing it. DO NOT change the way she lives just because you want to. DO NOT marry a girl who you know wants to work and build a career and expect her to leave her job after marriage.

15 comments:

joamoo said...

yes actually...in terms of this subject matter....many of us so called developed/advanced guys are backward.
I hope, Sooner or later everybody will treat partner as partner....and not everything else!

A Girl........... said...

hey gud advice Mr u no hoo... :)

Veekay said...

Here! Here! Really nice of u to think this...U have made all ur female readers very happy indeed :)

U No Hoo said...

What else do you think was my objective! :)

aarti said...

Sir all FEMALE frnds r definately going to be happy reading this...:)
Love ur Blog Sir...Do keep Writing.it encourages us in some or the other way..GOOD LUCK

U No Hoo said...

Dhanyawaad :)

Nikita..... said...

glad to know that there are some guys who do think this way.....
hope the mssg spreads to the entire guyhood :)

Madhurima said...

as nikita said there are some guys who really understand his better half and be wiht her for whatever she is..............................
Hope every guys will feels the same way

U No Hoo said...

Sure, such species do exist!

Darshana Deshmukh said...

luved this post its just awesum.

Sonali said...

so beautifully explained...great understanding of a girl's situation after marriage. am becoming a fan of your blog. look forward to more from you...

mandar.deodhar said...

I am not looking for only a beautiful, slim and an intelligent girl.......They are all clichés.

The ones that matter are:

The first prerequisite I expect of my wife --- no it isn't the ability to understand me, that's the second---- the first one's a sense of humor for me and all my nonsense

She must sleep in my lap and allow me into hers. She must run her hand into my hair and fight me with pillows as often as she can.

She must allow me to disturb her, Which I will, ---no matter how busy and serious she is and I am--- , while she goes about our household chores.

She must sit with me shoulder in shoulder when we watch the late night movie together and must oblige to have a midnight walk anytime in the night..

When she is downright tired she must flirt with me to win a cup of tea or a glass of cold water. She must be ready to blow a kiss any time any day and any place.

She should call me nicknames and how innovative she coins out new ones the better and must be prepared to confront some deadly ones in return.

She got every right to beat me up when I annoy her while she watches those serials. She can also extract what she wants of me on Women's Day. And I am also ready to share her premarital crushes and secrets.

On those rare occasions when we might fight and then go on a mourning spree, it can continue for the night. The next morning must again be normal.

I am not promising her a paradise but yes she will always get more of my love than our children.

And finally, she must have a higher life expectancy than me. I may not be able to live without her.....


P.S : Just for fun .. got it in mail.

Pankaj S. Jain said...

A very relevant post!! thanks...

Nilima said...

Hmm.. quite an impressive one, really glad to know that u think on such important and serious issues as well.
And its really true women are great. They have to take more effort to prove themselves than any guy, in every walk of her life. Every time it is expected more from her side only like u mentioned about preparing food & all.. Men should try to give helping hand to their wives at their daily chores ( not saying it becoz i m a girl, but just look around u and sense it unbiasly u'll agree to this fact)

Would love to born as a WOMAN in all my next lives :)

krithika said...

wav...very impressive.I just hope that each n every guy after reading this will understand the state of a women as u do...