It's no secret that I'm damn selfish as a person. I do not do things to please others. Yes, I have made few compromises for my parents over my life, but I am proud of those moments where I kept their interests above mine. I fear I may not be able to do it always. I really fear those moments that are in waiting.
Now, I am selfish by choice. I guess every one is. I was having a discussion about life and related abstract things with a very close friend of mine. I kept saying that the essence of living is in being 'selfish'. And she protested every time. Points of contention? The expected ones - that one has to think about others, the world at large, etc. Well, these thoughts are great but if one does them to please others, he or she would never remain a happy and satisfied person. In other words, if I talk to someone just because I have to, it does not serve any purpose at all. Sans few situations that are, at best, exceptional.
I have worked in few organizations over the last 5 odd years. I was never ‘really’ happy. Yes, there were moments of satisfaction and excitement, but it was not sustained. Those moments were scattered across time. When I decided to move on and be a freelancer or better, entrepreneur :), the feeling was great. It was not short-lived. I am still very happy to be doing so. Not because the pay-off of the decision is better, but simply because I do not have to please others any more. Initially, this decision did not go well with a lot of ‘stake-holders’ in my life, but they are pretty comfortable now. If I would have decided to stay back in a ‘steady income’ job, surely would have been brain-dead by now.
Similarly, I have been teaching CA students for about 4 years now. Every week, week after week, without major breaks. I enjoy doing it. I thoroughly love it. I don’t know why, but I don’t care about the reasons. Again, it has nothing to do with money. I am surprised myself to see the enthusiasm still intact. In fact, the excitement of taking lectures just keeps going up in phases. All this, for a person who has changed 3 jobs in over 4 years!
The point I am trying to drive home is that you are always happy doing things that YOU want to do, and not what some others want you to. Some others here could mean the society at large too. Let’s not fool ourselves. A majority of us are doing certain things in life just to be tagged 'social'.
I look forward to take lectures every week because I love it myself. May be this is not a great theory to write about, but it surely is a plot that a lot of us are missing in day to day life. Is this not what they call passion? Ceteris Paribus, an A.R. Rahman or a Roger Federer is perhaps far happier than an investment banker or an engineer who happened to become one.
Philanthropists do not do charity to show off. They do it because such acts of charity makes themselves happy. Probably, happier than the beneficiaries of such acts of charity! If a person gives away few bucks to a cause because she has to, then such acts won’t be sustainable.
Acts done to make thyself happy are the one’s that last. Don’t fret over things to please the world.
Be selfish, be happy!
I expect a lot of flak for this piece! Over to you, guys...:)