July 3, 2008

Kindly respond

I have still not received any views on this particular aspect that I had mentioned in my earlier post on marriages. I guess by the time you reached the last para, you might have got bored :) Hence repeating it separately here.

In how many cases (out of 100) do parents sit down with the son/daughter to discuss whether he/she wants to get married and related issues?

Awaiting your responses. Thanks.

Keep smiling :)

17 comments:

hariharan said...

i dont think so anyone talks
its a ritual, kind of compulsion.

Must say the way u have written its adorable>i agree to all the things u have written in tht post

shilpa said...

I think parents interaction gets more forceful than mere discussion when the age goes beyond the so-called "marriageable age". It may not be because the parents wants to, but the society pressurises to do the same.
And since its a tradition in Indian Culture to get married at a certain age , we are supposed to follow the same..............

Darshana Deshmukh said...

I agree with u that getting married should be a matter of personal choice and should not be forced upon by parents but you havent thought of one aspect of it.
What if you meet a person in your life with whoom you are madly in love with, then you your self wud become desperate to marry.
Would your thoughts be the same in this case? i wud luv to hear from u on this.

U No Hoo said...

Shilpa - I agree it is a part of the culture, but does not necessarily mean it is correct. For instance, Sati was practised (and still is in some parts of the country) as a part of the culture. But then, is it logical? I feel the same for marriage too, though they are not strictly comparable.

U No Hoo said...

Darshana, having fallen in love is a superb enough reason to get married. I guess you got the gist of my article differently. I never meant marriage is baseless. I have debated on the grounds on which people get married. Just because they are supposed to. I have a problem with that being forced upon, especially if it comes onto me.

U No Hoo said...

Thanks Hari..

And guys, what about the answer to the queestion I have asked! :)

Arunkiyer said...

Why do you think love is a good reason for you to get married? Even if you love someone it should not force you to get married to that person. You can still have a live in relationship.

shilpa said...

I do agree that forceful marriages are not correct at all but it does not mean that we should not discuss such a big issue relating to our life with our parents.
Since , they were involved in every decisions right from the day first we were born till the age of marriage, how cum we can't involve them in such a big decision.
But don't u think that after a certain period of time, say 30-32 years (till then we are totally involved in making our career.....)we need a companion!
Since we are educated , we should ignore the odd traditions such as Sati, but also not to forget our Indian Culture..That's why we are "INDIANS" na.............

U No Hoo said...

Again, I am not sure where you got a sense that I suggested we should not discuss things with parents!

About needing a companion, to my mind it is absurd. But then, it is MY view.

Thanks. Tk cr :)

monisha said...

But to you, what's so absurd in having a companion????

aarti said...

I dnt thk parents ask u whether u want to get married or not.Marriage is complusory..once i had told my mom dat i dnt want to get married ever.she dnt sleep dat nite..
Dis is wat the main problem is "MARRIAGES" hv bcum like a voters card,after a certain age u need to hv one,no matter whether u vote or not..Ridiculous!!!!!!
Let ppl live their own life..plsss

shilpa said...

Areeeee Deva! Ye mene apke liye nahi likha tha.I know that u will never think such stupid thing. Its a general view that I got from other posts. But I request u to pls tell us what exactly u want to know? i.e about companion or ur first question of ur blog

U No Hoo said...

Monisha, will write something on that matter soon. You will then know why I feel so :)

Shilpa, my question was on the discussions part, not on the companionship.

shilpa said...

Pls read "SPOUSE, THE TRUTH OF MARRIAGE" by SHOBHAA DE

mandar.deodhar said...

It should be a combined decision as it is a very important one for you, your family and some one else's family. Hence you have no right to take it loosely.

Human beings are evolving. In terms of physical, meantal and social aspects. We are understanding our mistakes are solving them. The process is indeed slow, but its improving .. I wont say improving but it is changing as per current needs.

Aarti said...

Too late to comment on this blog, but still..

Hardly 1 to2 % parents sit with there children to discuss about marriage.

But i'm lucky in this case.. before looking for prospective grooms.. my parents and my siblings asked me abt this..!!

Aarti said...

Too late to comment on this post.. But still..

Hardly few parents may b 1 or 2 % of parents sit with there kids and discuss abt marriage!!!

What more i have seen in many cases.. they fix-up everything and just to complete the formality they arrange one formal meeting for the couple.. which is ridiculous!!!

However, i have seen some changes also in today's scenario.. !!!